I love this by Betsey Johnson! If anyone can say
it, it's her. Me and the girls get this all the time. Georgina bought a
beautiful mustard yellow tea dress, complete with a little white collar and
embroided birds. I could have applauded her on the find; It was so her, but the
first thing she said to me was that her boyfriend didn't like it, preferring
the tighter dress which showed off her (amazing) figure. I'm not in any way
implying that all men want their girlfriends walking around in tight dresses.
Unfortunately we all have that friend whose boyfriend would rather she went out
dressed as a nun save any other male giving her a second glance; but when it
comes down to it, I dress more for other girls than for my
boyfriend because I think they can both relate and appreciate. And if
you've got a good set of friends, they'll tell you when they don't like
something and they'll give valid reasons; reasons you may not have thought of.
Because when you have a close girl, her mind is basically an extension of yours.
And vice versa. Usually those reasons make complete sense and you realise that
together as a team, you've made a logical and solid decision. I don't know why,
but men's reasons just aren't good enough. Here's why I think men should stick
to their own fashion and let us get on with ours.
1. Because they just don't get it.
Fine, your Grandma may have the same print on her
curtains, but don't you get it...vintage floral is something you can always get
away with. And yes maybe your mum did have something similar in the 90s. It
looked great on her then and it looks great on me now. Look up the word timeless and
then we will talk. I'm not gonna lie...we all want our fella's to like the way
we look and I do feel the tiniest bit disappointed when I know he doesn't like
what I'm wearing; 'cos after all, if we don't want our boyfriends to think we
look nice then we're not human, and we're certainly not women. But we have to
look past this. Because it really is just his classic male blindness. I'm not
saying they're not good at picking their own garms’ but a prime example is
this: A week ago I bought a blazer. It was one of those moments where you see
something online and time stands still. You want it, you need it. And even if
you only have £60 left in your bank account till your student loan comes
through, you're prepared to blow 2/3 of it in the name of fashion and maybe
even spend £5.95 on next day delivery to get it here sooner. It was old school
Shellana with lacy sleeves and an ivory body. It was perfect. So you get
in there and only begin to feel relief when it's been dispatched. I was so
excited I messaged the girls and the boyfriend and you can guess what happens
next. But hey, as soon as I had it on and took a classic 'look how good I look
tonight shame you're not here' snapchat, I got a little txt saying something
along the lines of, 'oh yeah it is nice actually'. Thank you.
2. They either don't understand the boobs or legs
rule or they think we should channel Jane Eyre when we go out.
I'm 21 years old. So as my mother would say, I've
got a long way to go when it comes to figuring out men. But you know what, if
there's one thing I'm almost 100% sure about (minus the exceptions in this
life) is that there are two types of men out there. The men who want every
other man in the club to want you, so they can walk out of the club, slap your
arse with one hand and shake the hand of a fellow male with the other. Yeah
that's right, she's with me. I'm going home with her tonight. My
friend at work once told me he felt personally complimented when other men look
at his girlfriend on the dance floor. However, if your boyfriend is anything
like the other type, I know exactly what you'll be thinking right now: Ha! You
must be joking hun.
Lads take note, girls with boyfriends aren’t trying
to impress other lads when they go out (well, maybe some but the majority are
not), but wearing a long sleeved dress with tights and flats and she might as
well be going to a job interview or heading into Uni for a tutorial. And it
does get hot in nightclubs you know. Sometimes us girls just want to put on a
nice dress, get our legs out and feel like girls. Especially if it's summer. We
just want to meet the gals, get some girly appreciation of our choice of outfit
and post a few pictures on our social media site of choice (or all of them in
my case). My friend once told her boyfriend, 'I dressed like this before you
and if you're not careful, I'll dress like this after you too'. I wouldn't go
that far and I'm not advocating going out wearing nothing, either. Admittedly,
I've looked back on pictures of nights out and a.)wondered how my mother let me
out and b.) knew for sure that my Dad cannot have been in; but there's a fine
line to be found in my opinion.
3. They don't see past the outfit.
I guess this relates to my first point but
something I've noticed with lads is that they struggle to see past what is
directly in front of them. You show them a two-piece online, a really classy
monochrome number that you want even more because it's in the 'New in' section.
What response do you get...'no I don't like that one, bit plain isn't it. Why
is the skirt the same as the top? Why don't you get that one instead.' There's
no joy in pointing out it's a two-piece by the way. Of
course he points to skin tight aztec mini that was doing the rounds in Topshop
about 14 months ago but is still in the sale because nobody wants it/it's not
summer in Ibiza anymore. Yeah it might look great on the model because she's a
size 2 but if I squeeze my post-christmas tum into that I'll more than likely
resemble Little Miss Piggy.
The thing is with girls is that we understand
each other. Maybe it's the same with lads, I can't comment. But as far as who
we dress for, I think the reasons above prove that there's no point in dressing
for a man. Imagine what some of us would look like? I do apologise if you're
lucky enough to have a fella who has a brilliant eye for women's fashion and
isn't gay.
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